I'm so excited about Tuesday! My IP's have an appointment at their hospital to discuss the surrogacy and I will be going with them. We've arranged to meet up beforehand and they're treating me to lunch. I'm not sure what to expect at the appointment but I assume we will talk about the hospitals IVF process and whatever options we have. We're hoping to get started in the New Year.
I have been reading about the different IVF processes and it's all a little bit daunting! But I don't have any doubts that this is what I want to do. I'm so excited about the journey ahead.
I will post more after we've been to the appointment ...
Sunday 26 October 2008
Tuesday 14 October 2008
Agreement Session
On Sunday my IPs came to my house for our Agreement Session. We were joined by a support worker from COTS who talked us through the form and made sure we were all happy with how we were going to proceed.
The session went very well and we all came away feeling happy about everything. There were difficult issues on the form but I had completed a specimen form prior to the meeting so the IPs knew what to expect. I decided that I could not agree to a termination if there was anything wrong with the baby and the IPs have had time to talk that through and decide that they are okay with it. I also don't want to have an amnio because of the risk of miscarriage but the IPs don't particularly want one either. If an amnio, or worse still, a termination, are advised by a doctor at any time, then I will consider all the information and discuss it with the IPs before making a decision, but I need them to know that I can't make any promises. I have to remember to be true to my own beliefs.
We also talked about who would be present at the birth. I know dh doesn't want to be there. He hated seeing me in pain with our own babies and I don't want to put him through that again. So I have asked my mum to be there instead. But I am also happy for both IPs to be there which they are really happy about. I think it's important because it's their child after all. It's one of those precious moments in life and I want them to be able to experience that.
I can't believe I'm actually going to be pregnant again! I'm so excited and I couldn't imagine doing it for anyone else. My IPs are getting excited, too. We have the first clinic appointment in a couple of weeks and I can't wait to find out more. If all goes well, we'd like to start in January.
The session went very well and we all came away feeling happy about everything. There were difficult issues on the form but I had completed a specimen form prior to the meeting so the IPs knew what to expect. I decided that I could not agree to a termination if there was anything wrong with the baby and the IPs have had time to talk that through and decide that they are okay with it. I also don't want to have an amnio because of the risk of miscarriage but the IPs don't particularly want one either. If an amnio, or worse still, a termination, are advised by a doctor at any time, then I will consider all the information and discuss it with the IPs before making a decision, but I need them to know that I can't make any promises. I have to remember to be true to my own beliefs.
We also talked about who would be present at the birth. I know dh doesn't want to be there. He hated seeing me in pain with our own babies and I don't want to put him through that again. So I have asked my mum to be there instead. But I am also happy for both IPs to be there which they are really happy about. I think it's important because it's their child after all. It's one of those precious moments in life and I want them to be able to experience that.
I can't believe I'm actually going to be pregnant again! I'm so excited and I couldn't imagine doing it for anyone else. My IPs are getting excited, too. We have the first clinic appointment in a couple of weeks and I can't wait to find out more. If all goes well, we'd like to start in January.
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